Lisa Hromada

What My Miscarriages Taught Me About Life, God and How to Heal

It was New Year’s Day in 2013 that my husband and I found out I was pregnant for the first time. We were so excited. Honestly, the thought never crossed my mind that anything could go wrong, which made my first missed miscarriage at 12 weeks especially shocking and devastating.

We arrived at our 12-week appointment feeling excited to hear our baby’s heartbeat for the first time. After several minutes of searching, the doctor said the words that no one wants to hear, “I’m sorry. There is no heartbeat.”

I felt like my life was completely turned upside down. I vividly recall the shock of finding out there was no heartbeat and the sorrow I felt when I had to tell my family and friends. I had so many questions for God. My biggest question was, “WHY?” I thought that knowing an answer could help me heal my suffering.

Several months later I experienced my second loss at eight weeks along when I again heard, “there was no heartbeat.” And again, I asked God, “Why?”

I spent months making myself miserable wondering when I would get pregnant again, until
I finally came to a point of mental and emotional exhaustion that I decided to relinquish control and allow God to take over.

Rather than obsess month after month about getting pregnant, I decided that I would do my best to take positive actions toward moving past my grief. And when I did, I began to notice how my relationships got stronger, my body healthier and I began to have vivid dreams of having a healthy baby. Nearly a year later we had our first child—our first rainbow after our storm.

At this point, I was just starting to get a glimpse into what happens when we release our struggles to God and do our best to stay positive. But there was still more that I was meant to experience and learn.

My third pregnancy loss was a turning point for me. Upon coming into my second trimester, and the day I planned to tell my family and friends I was pregnant, I discovered I would need to have another procedure done. I was devastated and cried the heaviest tears.

It took time, but I eventually came to a point of acceptance and complete surrender to God. Upon surrendering, I went through a series of incredible, life-changing steps that would ultimately lead me to a greater understanding of how we can co-write our life story with God. It would also lead me to being able to have our second child—our second rainbow.

What I learned from my journey to motherhood about love, life and how God works, I believe will completely transform the way you look at your life, your experiences and what you do next. (Shared this in the video clip – link below.)

I believe we are never alone in this life, and I believe that we can get through our times of challenge and suffering and come out of it more empowered and more complete.